Every age holds some secrets and unique traits, but 20 is particularly fascinating to me.

It's kind of a netherworld between the teen years and adulthood. I had a line in "Stay Awhile" where Fair talks about turning 20 in a matter of days. She says to Gomery "When you're 18 or 19, you're the elder of the youths, but when you turn 20 you're suddenly the little kid of the grown-up world."

That line got cut, but the sentiment is still there. When you turn 20, there's kind of a more profound shift, if not in behavior, then in thinking. You'll never be a teenager again, unless you live to 113.

And if you've missed out on some classic teenage experiences, as Fair Finley has, that can be a little discombobulating and bittersweet.

Fair asks Gomery, who will soon turn 21 in the books, how 20 has been for him. His answer?  "Can't complain. It's been pretty fair."

Oh criminy. You know I can't help myself.


Kelly said...

Wow that cut line is EXACTLY how I felt about turning 20.

At 18 I finished school, and then took a year off where I worked full time for a few months, and then travelled and volunteered a lot, so I felt so grown-up and worldly. And then I came back and went to uni where for most of first year everyone was busy hanging on to being a kid, doing dumb things and drinking a lot and shirking responsibility wherever possible, whilst getting used to living far from home and being independent, so being 20 felt very much like playing at being an adult.

Wilfair Book said...

Yes, that seems to be a common theme around that time of life. There's almost a line there, drawn between ages, and it seems starker and easier to see than most demarcations.

Well, darn. Maybe that line should stay in. :)

myrandaroyann said...

I love how you phrased that about being 20. It's a weird age, an inbetween time. You're considered an adult in some quarters by being over 18 but you're not an adult in some respects until you're over 21 (you can drink in the US, you can rent a hotel room, etc...). I just turned 22 this summer so I can still really relate to that feeling. Especially since I can't rent a car until I'm 25 aparrently. When the heck are we considered adults?! ;)

Wilfair Book said...

Totally an inbetween time. Exactly. And I'd forgotten about the car-renting age! Right. I ran into that myself when I was, oh, 23.

I think the last line of your comment, Myranda, very aptly sums up the Wilfair world for me. :)

wealhtheow said...

I remember graduating from college and spending the summer at home with my parents and grandmother before moving across the country. That was such a hard time in my life, because I was expected to be an adult, and carry all the responsibilities of an adult, and I simply had no idea what I was doing. It was very unnverving.

Now I'm a mom of 34, and I still have no idea what I'm doing. But at least I've realized that most of us don't. We just sort of struggle on, doing the best we can and trying to enjoy the ride.

Erika said...

"But at least I've realized that most of us don't. We just sort of struggle on, doing the best we can and trying to enjoy the ride. "

Wealhtheow I totally needed to hear that. Thank you!

Wilfair Book said...

Seconded! That is so, so true, wealhtheow. I think one of the secrets to life is understanding we're all in the same boat, regardless of whether some people seem to be having an up moment or down.

One of my favorite quotes is "don't compare your behind-the-scenes with everybody else's highlight reels." I would love to know who said that so I can attribute it but search isn't revealing that.

It's so true, though; we often see the highlight reels of those around us and in the media while we struggle with the frame-by-frame of our everyday lives. Everyone, of course, is doing the same, but we usually only see their best bits and successes.

Gettin' mega deep here at Wilfair HQ!

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