Nobody's Girlfriend

Everything in a book is personal to a writer, to varying degrees, but certain moments are apt to ring a writer's bell a little louder than others.

Sutton Von Hunt says a few of the "Stay Awhile" lines that are nearest to my heart. I'm not puffing my chest and saying these bits of dialogue are exceptional, but they do mean a lot to me.

Here is the first one:

"I'm nobody's girlfriend!"

Sutton says this in The Redwoodian's kitchen when the misguided do-gooders claim that Sutton and Fair are Monty and Gomery's girlfriends. The full line is actually "Hey! I'm nobody's girlfriend! Watch it!"

This might seem like a odd line to land upon, as being especially important, but I feel close to it.

Why? I love love stories, but I've never enjoyed swoony tales where people aren't comfortable being alone. People need to have a good sense of themselves whether they are in a couple or not. It's about a million times more satisfying if people come together from that place, a place of self-worth, than from a spot where they did not feel not complete in their singular awesomeness.

We all know this, but that message isn't always strongly delivered, for my tastes. Needing a better half? Meh. Nope. People of Wilfair desire their equal whole.

(Prior Yates maybe has issues with fully grasping that. Yep.)

Sutton also delivers the line with enthusiasm. She's just fine being nobody's girlfriend. She likes romance, and guys, and crushes, but it isn't paramount to her to be in a relationship.

Upshot? That line, and a few more, set that tone: Everyone, or nearly everyone, in "Wilfair" is fine on their own. Are some of the people lonely? Yes. Do some of the people in the books want to be with other people in the books? That, I hope, is very, very clear at this point. But is everyone a-ok walkin' their own path by their owndamnselves? You bet.

Is it having it both ways? A love book brimming with sweet words and meaningful glances that also contains a not-small dose of nobody's-girlfriend-ness? I see them as counterweights attached to the same scale, keeping everything balanced.

photo: .jennifer donley.


Amanda W said...

I love this. It's true that love stories to me are ultimately more satisfying when nobody is desperate for their "other half". With the exception of Only You (which made an indellible impression upon my adolescent mind, and has Italy and a guy who buys shoes as gifts), I don't really find that kind of romance all that romantic anymore.

myrandaroyann said...

I love this, "People of Wilfair desire their equal whole." That's a wonderful statement. Those are the kind of romances I'm interested in and I think that's something that people need to strive for in real life.

Caitlin said...

I don't have anything to add, but I just wanted to give a hearty thumbs up to everything in this post. And to what Amanda and myranda said.

Also, thank you for the reminder that being okay walking your own path and being lonely occasionally are not mutually exclusive.

do dah said...

i also love this.

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